Dreams – those bizarre bits of jumbled pictures that come to us when we sleep. Are
they merely mental flashbacks of our day’s activities or could they be more? Could
they contain information – valuable information – that is helpful to us for solving
problems and gaining guidance? Yes, our dreams are one of our most valuable
mental resources. They contain messages – messages from ourselves to ourselves.
Dreams will often come to give you a “state of your state of mind” message. They
may come to say, “You’re doing fine. Hang in there.” Or the message may be,
“You’ve gone off in the wrong direction. Take a close look at your life and make
Like intuitions, dreams come from your inner, subconscious mind. Dreams come in
many forms – creative dreams, precognitive dreams where ones “sees” a future
event, problem solving dreams, intuitive dreams, and simple “logging in” dreams
where one can catch a glimpse of their mind’s “filing” of daily information.
Reoccurring dreams are especially important because they are a message that your
subconscious mind is desperately trying to get you to pay attention to. Your
subconscious will patiently give you the same message over and over for years until
you finally “get” it.
What Do Dreams Tell Us?
Dreams allow you to become aware of your mental
programming. They let you see how it is affecting your life. Sometimes a dream will
give you a message that an old attitude or belief is no longer working for you. A
dream may suggest a new attitude or belief that would work better, or will
sometimes give you a little pat on the back, a little encouragement. Often, dreams
come to warn you that you need to be more aware of a certain situation in your life.
And often dreams come to present you with solutions to problems you have been
working on but could find no conscious solution to.
Dreams tell you how you really feel about yourself and others, and the situations in
your life. They give you your personal perceptions of reality (and this may or may
not be consistent with objective reality).
Dreams tell you about your self-image, when and where you feel in control of your
life, when and where you don’t. They tell you about situations where you feel that
you have been “good,” and where you feel that you have been “bad.” Each of these
facets of your self-image is represented in your dreams.
How To Remember Your Dreams
To get the help available from your dreams, you
must first remember them. It usually takes an average of five weeks to learn to
recall your dreams. But by following some simple, easy steps, almost everyone can
begin to remember their dreams and reap the benefits of these important
• Give yourself a pre-sleep suggestion. Just before you fall asleep, say to yourself
several times, “I am going to remember my dreams.”
• Keep a pad and pencil by your bed to down any memories or scraps of memories
about your dreams.
• Upon awakening in the morning, do not jump right out of bed. Stay in bed a few
minutes and mull over any thoughts or images that may be floating around in your
mind. These may remind you of a dream.
• Give dreams a name or “theme.” This “classifies” the dream and helps you
remember it. It also helps you to bring up any associations connected with it.
Interpreting Your Dream Messages
What do your dreams mean? The best and
most accurate interpretation of your dream will come from you, through your
intuition. Your dreams are part of you, your subconscious. Who better to know what
your subconscious is telling you than you yourself?
Start by asking yourself, what does each dream image mean to me? How do I feel
about the image? Dream therapists generally agree that a dream image reflects your
own personal attitudes and feelings. So, for instance, while dreams of snakes for
most people would represent something they are afraid of, for a person who keeps
reptiles as pets, a dream of snakes might represent friendship or companionship.
Once you have identified the general feeling or attitude that the dream image
represents, ask yourself how this feeling or attitude may be manifesting itself in
your life today. (What is happening currently in your life that is making you fearful?)
Use this method of discovery even when you dream of friends, family members or
acquaintances. Remember, dreams are messages from yourself to yourself, and they
are most often about yourself, your feelings, your concerns, etc. Assume that all
dream characters, even people you know, represent aspects of yourself and are
there to represent a feeling or attitude. The question you should ask yourself is:
How do you feel about the friend or family member?, not why are you dreaming of
By looking at your dream images as aspects of yourself, you can most often identify
the feeling or attitude associated with the image and uncovers the dream’s
message. But when interpreting a dream message, if you don’t intuitively feel that it
is right, it probably isn’t. On the other hand if the interpretation elicits the response,
“Yes! That’s it!” it probably is accurate. A true interpretation always feels right. More
importantly, it can tell you a lot about yourself and which areas of your life may
currently be in need of attention.
Common Dream Symbols
• Vehicles – cars, busses, trucks, trains, boats etc. – often represent your direction
in life. Are you on the right track? Are you heading in the right direction? Often, if
the vehicle is headed toward the right, it means that you are.
• Monsters, savages, wild animals – often represent the “dark” part of you. This is
the part of you that you may not want to know about – your bad habits, your
negative traits and your fears. But by “making friends” with these parts of you –
listening to them and letting them tell you what they need – you can help all of you
• A House – often represents you. Is your house dirty and messy? Does it need to
be cleaned up and taken better care of? Are there hidden rooms that need to be
explored? If your house becomes bigger and better over time, then you can be sure
that you are growing and learning.
• Clothes – often represent feelings of protection. Having a dream of going to
school without your clothes on means you feel unsafe or unsure about something.
• Teeth – often represent how you “face” others. If your teeth fall out in a dream,
you may be afraid of “losing face.”
• Hair – often represents your thoughts. Stiff hair might mean you are not being
flexible in your thinking. Black hair could mean you are having sad thoughts or
feelings but not recognizing them.
• Water – often represents a cleansing, a new beginning.
• Paralysis – often means you are afraid to take action about something.
• Crashing waves, tornadoes, hurricanes, etc – often mean your emotions are in an
• Failing a test or exam – often mean you are afraid that you are “failing” in some
area of your life (it may mean school, but often it is about another area).
• Being unable to find your classroom – often means that you are “not sure where
you are going” in some important area of your life.
• Going to the bathroom in public – often means that you fear that others have
caught (or will catch) you showing your negative habits or traits.
• Not being able to reach someone on the telephone – often means that you are
trying to “get through” to someone, but feel you can’t.
Rita Milios, the Mind Mentor, is a psychotherapist, author and speaker on topics of
mind, creativity and behavior. Her intuitive training books include Dream Journal
and Intuition Log Book. Visit http://www.ritamilios.com for more articles and information
about Rita’s speaking topics.